It is hard to live a life of deception. Telling the truth, being upfront, maintaining transparency, and being open are much easier. You have less work to do and less to remember. You never have to keep your story straight, if you are who you are consistently.
It’s easier to be genuine than it is to live a lie.
This applies to the things we do in our lives, which includes the relationships we engage in.
A relationship that has to be kept secret – whether business or personal – has the taint of deception. It resides in darkness. It will take its toll on you, and likely on others.
If you cannot be open and proud of what you’re doing and who you’re with, you need to get out of that situation. You may be thinking that this only applies to romantic relationships (and it does), but this can apply to business and other social relationships as well.
The rule is simple: If you feel the need to keep a certain relationship secret or hidden, you probably shouldn’t be in it.